Today I heard a 17-year-old girl I know
has been revealed to have a drug addiction. She has now been expelled
from her high school having almost graduated, and the whole school is
in a state of chaos as it appears the drug abuse is widely spread
among students. My initial reaction was shock: her, of all people!
Such a smart kid! From such a good family! With such healthy
upbringing! But then I realized anyone has the ability to screw up,
no matter the circumstances, as it is all about moment-to-moment
choices, and no happy family history will stop a person from saying
“yes” to whatever they decide to violate themselves with.
I then remembered something about the
girl had been bothering me for the past year or two. Everytime we met
(which was not too often) she was very friendly and happy to see me,
but I sensed a strange tightness about her, a feeling of getting
strangled, like she was forcing words out of her mouth and stretching
her face to form a smile instead of simply letting words and smiles
manifest out of joy or whatever feeling she was actually going
through. Within those moments I chose to buy her act. “Maybe it's
just that she's young. Maybe she thinks I'm cool! Maybe she's nervous
of me!” And within those thoughts I took the opportunity to make
myself “more” and ignored what was obviously there, making the
moment an image instead of actually living the moment.
Had I refused to buy her bullshit
within those moments, seen her for what she really was and acted
accordingly, things may have gone differently. I did not sense she
may have a problem with drugs, no, but I did sense she was not
comfortable, she was not genuinely there. She did actually seem to
want to interact with me, but I abused those moments for my own
feelgood instead of being of assistance and support to another within
the moment. Whatever underlies her current issues may have been
brought to surface before it manifests like this. This is also where
I do not allow myself to fall into blame: I now learn what the
consequences accepting bullshit can and will manifest – even though
not within my immediate experience, but within this world we all
inhabit and are affected by and responsible of. It is not my
responsibility to “save” people from themselves, but it is my
responsibility to not accept deceit, dishonesty and lies and let them
slide without doing my best to dissolve them within the situations
they occur.
I now see and realize that within any
and all interaction lies the possibility to assist and support one
another, be it through thoughts, words, actions or simply through
being here. To live each moment here as breath is to support and
assist one another unconditionally.
I forgive myself that I have accepted
and allowed myself to ignore another persons body language or to
misinterpret it for my own elevation.
I forgive myself that I have accepted
and allowed myself to believe it is okay for another to be anxious if
it is because they respect me and look up to me, not realizing that
allowing another being to be trapped within a cycle of self-abuse is
affecting the entire world, myself included. I now see and realize
that by allowing another to abuse themselves as we interact is to
allow abuse to exist anywhere in any shape and form; I forgive myself
that I have accepted and allowed myself to let abuse exist within my
experience.
I forgive myself that I have accepted
and allowed myself to want to be “more” than another by being
their “senior”, “mentor” or “idol”, and that I have
accepted and allowed myself to let that manifest as ignorance and
abuse.
I forgive myself that I have accepted
and allowed myself to believe it is possible to be “more” or
“less” than another, when in fact everything and everyone is one
and equal as everything is life.
I forgive myself that I have accepted
and allowed myself to fear being “less” than another and let that
manifest as looking for ways to make myself “more” within
interaction.
I forgive myself that I have accepted
and allowed myself to escape my fear of being “less” into being
“more”, believing my own facade and that such a fear does not
exist.
I forgive myself that I have accepted
and allowed myself to not be here as breath within each and every
moment, and that I have accepted and allowed myself to instead live
out stories and images. I now see and realize stories and images are
not the reality that is here and that they are social agreements
between people to create that which is not real by being that which
is not real; I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself
to act out that which is not real by being that which is not real,
agreeing to the social agreements in which we accept and allow each
other's bullshit.
I forgive myself that I have accepted
and allowed myself to abandon my responsibility to direct the moments
I live within. I now see and realize that that which I allow to exist
within my experience will continue to exist in this reality, and that
it is my responsibility (as well as everyone's) to stand up and not
allow the cycle to continue by facing the bullshit when it is here
and now.
I commit myself to support and assist
myself by slowing myself down through breathing to face and expose
the bullshit I come across through human interaction by supporting
and assisting another in a way they can hear and understand by living
kindness, honesty and patience.
I commit myself to not validate any
excuses I come across, be they mine or another's.
I commit myself to face my fear of
being “less” by investigating the ways another is supposedly
“more” than me - which makes me either want to outrun them or
become “less” to balance out – and to support and assist myself
to face those moments by being here within and as breath, stable and
myself.
I commit myself to no longer allow
abuse to exist within my experience by being here and trusting myself
to be able to notice and to take action on abuse when I come across
it.
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